What Motivates You?

November 10, 2010 at 12:09 pm 4 comments

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” -Zig Ziglar

I’ve always thought that motivation came from being challenged. Some of the best work that I’ve done was because of this – when I was challenged to do something that someone else didn’t think I could do.  I believed that motivation from an external source was what got me going, because I didn’t feel that I could motivate myself enough to get things done.  Many things in my life have come easily to me – school, athletics, etc.,  but I never really excelled completely if I wasn’t challenged.

I used to joke that my best work was done the night before something was due. However, my parents thought differently. They used to tell me I was just lazy. Don’t get me wrong, my parents loved me and were extremely proud of me, but because I was so good at things, when I didn’t do them as well as they thought I could or should, they said it was because I had been lazy and hadn’t tried hard enough.  I wonder where my perfectionism came from, huh? 9 years ago, just after I had moved into my dream home, my brother told me that things had always come too easily to me and that it made me lazy, and when I eventually would be faced with something tough, that I wouldn’t know how to cope.  He said he was trying to help prepare me by telling me this. (As I write this, I’m amazed that those words still have the power to hurt me and make me cry)

Then, five years ago, my life wasn’t so easy anymore.  The challenge that my brother so lovingly wished for warned me about, happened.  My world fell apart.  A failed relationship, a lost job, and the death of my father.  All in the space of 3 months.

I’ve had people who told me that they wouldn’t have been able to cope with what I went through.  But what was I supposed to do?  I had 2 children, and bills to pay.  Sure, I could have curled up into the fetal position, and just wished for the world and all of my problems to go away.  But I didn’t.

Those people who told me that they wouldn’t have been able to cope?  I told them, that like the mother that lifts the car off of her child, you don’t realize what you can do until you are forced to.

Was it internal or external motivation, fear or just a need to survive?  I really don’t know, but in the end it didn’t matter.  I got through it, and I came out the other side a stronger person.

Since then, I have been told that I motivated or inspired people with what I did.  Me?  A motivator?  I didn’t believe I could even motivate myself!  I believed what I had been told in the past – that I was lazy.

I often joke with friends that I would be bored if I didn’t have drama in my life.  Fortunately the drama has subsided (thank god for that!), but I lately I have felt as though I was getting bored.   I realized that for the first time in a long time, I hadn’t been challenged, either by external forces or by myself.

So, I made a pact with myself to challenge myself in many ways before I turn 50 next year.

My healthy life choice is one of those challenges.

Am I motivated?  You bet, but I need to make sure I am motivated everyday.

PS – the picture above?  That’s me attempting my first challenge – overcoming a fear of heights.  It may not look that high, but I was at least 20 feet off of the ground.  If you’re in or going to be visiting the Southern Ontario or Quebec area, check out Arbraska Tree Top Trekking.

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  • 1. Shelley  |  November 10, 2010 at 1:58 pm

    I believe that is one of my favorite Zip Zigler quotes and he has MANY gems 🙂

    I’m so glad to be on this journey because there may come a day where finding your own internal motivation is harder than others… that’s where your support system comes in 🙂

    Let me know if I can ever help give you a needed nudge 🙂 I KNOW You Can Do THIS!

    • 2. Patricia Eales  |  November 11, 2010 at 4:13 pm

      Thanks! Shelley, you are such a supportive person, and I appreciate you!

  • 3. thebettylife  |  November 12, 2010 at 1:07 am

    Wow! You are such an inspirational person. I wish you all the best in getting fit for 50! Seems like your going to have a lot of fun and sucess along the way too. Keep it up! Betty x

    • 4. Patricia Eales  |  November 12, 2010 at 10:03 am

      thank you Betty, I appreciate your kind words!


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